- With Love, Dominique Perkowski
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- From Freaked Out → To Figured Out
From Freaked Out → To Figured Out
4 grounded tools to regulate, reset, and respond with clarity — not chaos.
💌 WITH LOVE, DOMINIQUE
Bringing meditation, mindset and spirituality down-to-earth to empower your authenticity & greatest potential.
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IN TODAY’S ISSUE:
💭 WE’RE DIVING INTO / FROM FREAKED OUT → TO FIGURED OUT
📞🧘 WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER / CURRENT OPENINGS & OFFERINGS
DIVING INTO: FROM FREAKED OUT → FIGURED OUT
Let’s be honest: A lot of what we label as “freaking out” is just our nervous system doing what it’s been trained to do — protect us.
But protection isn’t always clarity. And urgency doesn’t equal truth.
When you’re in it, it feels like the situation at hand is dire.
But the version of you that’s spiraling isn’t the one who should be making the decisions.
So here are 4 things that can take that spiral and turn it into a bold, empowered move that gets you closer to the person you want to be:
1️⃣ REGULATE BEFORE YOU REACT
If your system is in fight-or-flight, your brain is pulling from old scripts — not fresh insight. You’re not solving the problem, you’re just looping through your past.
Don’t trust the freakout.
Go for a walk. Close your eyes. Move. Breathe. Call someone you trust. Put your hand on your heart.
Even 10–30 minutes of nervous system regulation can shift the entire trajectory of your choices.
(Bonus: a daily meditation practice lowers your stress baseline, so you spiral way less often — and recover faster when you do.)
2️⃣ ASK YOURSELF: WHAT DO I ACTUALLY WANT HERE?
Not what you’re afraid of. Not what looks good on paper. Not what someone else told you to want.
What’s the actual outcome you want to create in this situation?
Let that answer guide you.
Because when you move from fear, you get more chaos.
When you move from clarity, you create traction.
Get real with yourself. Get specific. Then move accordingly.
3️⃣ SPOT THE PATTERN
That moment when you think, “This always happens” — pause.
That’s not the truth. That’s programming.
We all have stories we fall into when we’re triggered.
Maybe it’s the “I have to do it all myself” story. Or the “I messed it up again” loop.
Cool. You noticed it. Now let’s shift it.
The more aware you are of your defaults, the less power they have over you.
4️⃣ STAY OPEN (EVEN IF YOU’RE PISSED)
When we’re deep in it, the instinct is to shut down, cling to the narrative, and double down on past patterns.
But staying open to new insights and a new approach is your secret weapon.
Try on a new lens. Ask for a reflection. Let someone support you. Say, “I’m open to seeing this differently.”
It’s not weakness — it’s wisdom.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just need the tools to return to yourself when you don’t.
Keep these in your back pocket for the next time your brain wants to convince you it’s all falling apart.
It’s not. You’ve got this 🤍
🧘 📞 WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER: OPENINGS & OFFERINGS
Ready for deeper support or feeling the nudge to work together more closely?
Below are the current ways you can step into this work — from high-touch coaching to powerful group experiences. These offerings are designed to help you realign, recharge, and move forward with clarity and purpose.
If something speaks to you, trust that pull — I’d love to support you!
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