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How to master transformative self-love đź’Ś
The practical secret to mastering self-love, self-confidence, self-trust or any of your other self-focused intentions.
đź’Ś WITH LOVE, DOMINIQUE
Bringing meditation, mindset and spirituality down-to-earth to empower your authenticity & greatest potential.
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Helllooo my loves!
Have you ever desperately craved seeing transformation in a powerful self intention — like cultivating self-love or bold confidence — only to find yourself wondering how to truly bring it to life?
You’re not alone. Many of my clients come to me desiring these sort of ephemeral inner shifts, but having no idea how to actually actualize and embody them.
So let me let you in on a lil’ mindset secret: the key is shifting self-intentions from the desire of a feeling into actionable, practical steps.
Let me explain:
The biggest misconception I see clients believe is that our self-intention should be attached to a feeling. Meaning:
To master self-love, we must always feel unconditional love for ourselves and never feel negative emotions about ourselves.
To master confidence, we must always feel confident and can never feel moments of self-doubt.
To master bold, authentic self-expression, we must always feel like we’re communicating clearly and can never feel our voice getting caught in our throat as we express ourselves vulnerably.
The reason this is a misconception is because feelings are fleeting — they come, go and can be based on various factors that have nothing to do with our intentions: like the weather impacting our mood, a bad night’s sleep, hormones and many other uncontrollable factors.
And attaching our inner self-development to a “positive” emotion is a surefire way to keep ourselves stuck in our comfort zone — never daring to expand further into the unknown for fear of the challenging emotions it might bring. (Which is the only way to truly test and grow your self-love, confidence, etc. btw).
Instead of thinking of these intentions as “how I’m feeling” — I want you to think of them as “how I approach”.
And we do this by grounding those intentions into consistent actions that are aligned with expanding into your authenticity.
This is what ensures you can continue to take action and transform your life through those self intentions (self-love, confidence, etc.) - instead of falling into and believing that they’re based on your mood of the day.
Another reason this is a major misconception is because everyone’s journey to embodying our self intentions will look different - based on our unique desires, authenticity and subconscious patterns or limitations.
For example, with self-love:
For some it may mean truly acknowledging your value and going after that big promotion.
For some it may mean realizing you’ve been in a pattern of burnout and setting boundaries with work or life to care for yourself properly.
For some it may mean acknowledging your fears have made you fiercely independent and learning to soften your boundaries to let support and deep connection in.
So if you’re looking for a massive transformation in your self intentions in 2025, here’s the main tip I can give: get crystal clear on what that self-shift means to you and back it up with practical action steps you can meet, reflect on and grow month after month.
This process of turning internal shifts into clear, actionable practices is what we’ll dive deep into during The Master Your Mindset Program.
In this twelve-month coaching experience, you’ll learn to:
Take the big vision you have for yourself and break it down into intentional, practical actions.
Transform your mindset through a blend of neuroscience, meditation, and practical strategies.
Identify and release subconscious limitations holding you back.
Build long-term habits for success in your self, relationships, health, career and more!
The program includes:
Bi-weekly sessions: that provide education and coaching - diving you deep into meditation and mindset work so you can understand the secrets that create lasting transformation.
An empowering community: of like-minded visionaries to support and cheerlead you on through the highs, lows and plateaus as you actualize your 2025 vision.
Various accountability touch points: so you don’t have to worry about losing steam and ending the year feeling like nothings changed.
And so much more!
This isn’t just about setting intentions—it’s about turning them into a practical roadmap that allows you to truly embody and live them.
If you’re ready to turn your internal shifts into real-life transformations, I’d love for you to join us.
👉 Spots are limited and filling up! Click here to learn more and enroll.
I absolutely cannot wait to create your transformation, together!
With so much love and excitement,
Dom