💌 WITH LOVE, DOMINIQUE

Bringing meditation, mindset, and spirituality down-to-earth to empower your authenticity & greatest potential.

 📚️ VOL 30 / 🕖️ READ TIME: 3 m 47 s

IN TODAY’S ISSUE:

• 💭 WE’RE DIVING INTO / HOW TO TRANSFORM TRIGGERS INTO PERSONAL POWER

• ✏️ QUESTION FOR REFLECTION + GUIDING TIP/ TIPS FOR HOW TO TRANSFORM TRIGGERS INTO PERSONAL POWER

•  📞🧘 WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER / CURRENT OPENINGS & OFFERINGS

DIVING INTO: HOW TO TRANSFORM TRIGGERS INTO PERSONAL POWER

Hi love,

We’re officially stepping into the season where joy and tension tend to collide — twinkling lights and warm gatherings mixed with the comments, dynamics, and old patterns that somehow manage to hit the exact nerve you thought you’d healed by now. 

It’s why this is the perfect moment to bring back one of my favorite concepts: Blue Hair Theory.

If you haven’t heard me talk about it yet, here’s the idea: 

Imagine someone walks up to you and says, “Oh my god, you have blue hair.” And you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you do not have blue hair. Maybe you’d check a mirror just for fun, but you wouldn’t spiral. You wouldn’t internalize it. You wouldn’t walk away questioning your worth or replaying the moment for the rest of the day. You’d probably laugh, tilt your head, or ask if they’re feeling okay.

Now imagine the comment wasn’t about your hair — it was something closer to your heart.

“You’re still single?”

“I wouldn’t do it like that if I were you.”

“Are you sure that’s the right decision?”

Or maybe they don’t say a thing. Maybe it’s a behavior that they seem to constantly repeat that makes you feel some type of way.

Suddenly, the emotional response changes. You feel it. A tightening. A sting. A familiar discomfort that pulls you out of the present moment and into old versions of yourself.

Why does one comment bounce off you while another sends you spiraling?

Because triggers only activate where there is an unresolved belief inside of you. Not consciously — but in your subconscious.

This isn’t just emotional theory. 

Psychology research shows that about 95% of our thoughts, behaviors, and reactions are driven by subconscious patterning — old associations, memories, and internalized messages that filter how we interpret the world. 

So when something or someone triggers you, it’s not the comment itself. It’s the meaning your mind attaches to it based on your stored inner world.

Understanding this is how you reclaim your power.

When someone says something that hits you, pause and ask yourself:
“What if this person is just telling me I have blue hair?”

Meaning — what if what they’re saying isn’t about you at all, but about their own lens, projections, or limitations? What if the only reason it hurts is because an outdated belief inside of you still believes a piece of it might be true?

This is where the real work begins. Not in avoiding triggers, but in meeting them with awareness and compassion. 

Here’s how to move through it:

1. Start by noticing the meaning your mind created. What story did you attach to their words? What assumptions did you make about yourself through their behavior? (They’re judging me, Nothing I do will ever be good enough…., I’m not where I’m meant to be…, I’m falling behind….)

2. Then come back to your truth — not the version of you from five years ago, not the version shaped by family dynamics or old relationships, but the version standing right here today. What is your truth?

3. From there, clarify how the trigger is impacting you — influencing your thoughts, behavior, or energy in a way that doesn’t align with who you’re becoming. How would the version of you that was fully embodied in your truth experience this moment? 

4. And then — the most transformative part — embody the lesson. Triggers are often mirrors revealing where an old pattern still lives within you. They’re frustrating, yes, but they’re also invitations into deeper self-connection. When you can meet a trigger with clarity instead of collapse, you free yourself from the version of you who once believed those old narratives. From this moment, what are you committing to releasing? A mindset, behavioral reaction or emotional reaction?

Once you get clear on what you’re releasing, act like it’s no longer allowed in your experience. 

When you notice yourself returning to it, remember the commitment. Because once you stop believing the trigger internally, it stops shaping your reality externally.

So as you move through the holidays, remember: you’re not being pulled backward. You’re being shown where a new version of you is ready to emerge. You’re not behind. You’re being invited forward.

✏️ QUESTION FOR REFLECTION + GUIDING TIP: HOW TO TRANSFORM TRIGGERS INTO PERSONAL POWER

Question for Reflection:
What recent trigger revealed an old belief — and what is the truth you’re choosing instead?

Guiding Tip:
When you feel activated, pause and ask: “If this moment wasn’t about me, what would it be showing me about what I’m ready to release?” Let the clarity guide how you show up next.

With love,
Dominique

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