THE MUSING 06:

Are You Asking for Help Enough?

There’s a moment that tends to come up early in this work — usually after a woman has just named how burnt out, disconnected, or emotionally overwhelmed she feels — and I ask her something simple:

"Do you ask for help?"

Almost every time, the question spurs a light-bulb moment  — followed by a “I mean…..not really?” 

Because the truth is, most high-achieving women have been conditioned to be self-sacrificing to the point of invisibility.

We’re praised for being the reliable one, the supportive one, the one who holds it together. 

So we keep doing it. We anticipate everyone else’s needs. We keep the emotional pulse of our families, teams, and partners. We stay strong, even when it costs us.

And over time, the pattern becomes so automatic that we stop noticing how little we’re actually receiving in return.

It’s not that we don’t want support. It’s that somewhere we picked up that needing it makes us weak.

That it’s better, faster, “easier” for everyone if we just do it ourselves.

But here’s the reframe:
Support doesn’t make you weaker. It makes you more honest, more resourced, more whole, and more able to live a life that’s sustainably aligned — not just impressive on paper. 

Inside The Muses, one of the biggest breakthroughs clients experience is the realization that it’s safe to let others in. 

That asking for help doesn’t just need to happen when you’re at or (let’s be honest) way beyond your limit. 

It means you’re finally letting yourself be human and allowing others to be a part of the beautiful creation process (of work, relationships, and life) with you. 

When you do that - the people who love you and are meant for you actually get a chance to show up.

Self-connection isn’t just about solo reflection. It’s also about receiving, being supported, letting yourself take up space — not just as the one who gives, but as someone who’s worthy of asking for what they need and being held, too.

Ask yourself:
Where in your life are you still equating strength with self-sacrifice — and what would it look like to let yourself be supported instead?