Hiya ,

Let’s clear something up — no, you’re not too much.

No, you’re not too picky. No, you’re not being unrealistic.

You’ve likely just finally stopped trying to fit yourself into what no longer matches your worth.

You’ve stopped rationalizing things that didn’t feel good in your body.

You’ve stopped silencing the part of you that wanted that “something more”.

More depth. More reciprocity. More intentionality. More peace. More you!

And yeah, been there — that shift (even though it’s everything we think we want) can feel disorienting at first. 

When you’ve been the fixer, the over-giver, the “low-maintenance” one — raising your standards can stir up all kinds of self-doubt.

“Am I asking for too much?”
“Should I just be grateful for what I have?”
“Maybe I’m the problem…”

But here’s what’s really happening:

✨ You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking for what’s true.

You’re learning to trust yourself. To name your needs. To expect more from the spaces you pour your incredible (!!) energy into. (As you f*cking should.)

And I know it can feel uncomfortable when certain patterns, people or environments that no longer serve your growth start to fall away — but instead of getting caught up in it, see it simply as something that’s no longer aligned with the person you’re becoming.

Release it and any lessons it brought with appreciation, wish it well — and take the next, best aligned step for you 🤍

Try this this week:

• Check in: What are you tolerating that you’ve outgrown?

• Write down 3 new standards you’re holding (in work, relationships, or energy).

• Say no or set one small boundary that honors your worth.

• When doubt creeps in, ask: “What would the highest version of me expect in this situation?”

💌 WITH LOVE, DOMINIQUE